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Would I Lose Friends Over This?

Alright, I am up in my 20s, and have had social anxiety a huge part of my life, and never had friends until around late 2011. Late 2011, I began attending a new church and met a very nice couple in their early 40s that were the only ones in the church that would give me the time of day and be nice to me. The rest of the people more or less ignored me as it wasnt a healthy church, which was comprised of cliques, etc. In May of the last year, the really nice couple went to another church but called me that they would still be my friend. I left the church shortly after as well and found a new one which I enjoy. For the past 2 christmas’s Ive given them cards and gift cards, and gifts too on their birthday, and brought them meals once when they were sick. So in spite of my social anxiety, I feel I have been a decent friend. They invited me over to dinner last Fall, and I went and had a great time, and wrote them a thank you card. Recently, they have invited me over for dinner twice again. A few weeks ago I had to cancel because I had to go to a family affair, and they said that was ok and they understood and how they would work it around my schedule. Then the last two weeks have been stressful because we suspected my dad might have a lump that was malignant, but yesterday found out it was benign thankfully. I canceled last Saturday, and left them a message and emailed them that I was sorry but I just didnt think I would be very good company because I was worried sick about my dad. They never called me yet in regards to the message. Remember all the nice things I have done for them (meals, gifts on their birthday, cards and giftcards the last 2 Christmas’s, put a relative of theirs on several prayer chains when he was sick, etc)….because I was going through duress about my dad and canceling, and not getting to speak to them since it was on an answering machine and sending an email. Do you think that now they will be done with me? Am I an awful friend?

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One Response to “Would I Lose Friends Over This?”

  1. Cameron says:

    No you shouldn’t lose friends over this and advice to you is wait until your dad is in a spot that makes you feel more comfortable and then call and invite them over for dinner.

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