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What To Do About My Mother In Law?

she lives five minutes away from us and is the only jehovas witness in her family, she converted to the faith eight years ago. i am having a baby soon and my partner (her son) is an easy going guy who won’t upset his mother in any way and humours her beliefs because he says her religion makes her happy. i had to say something about her bringing over the watchtower magazines all the time and preaching at me about her beliefs, she just said okay and left it at that. she played the matyr with my partner though and he had a go at me for upsetting her.
she won’t celebrate brithdays or christmas which i respect but find strange since i never understood the reasoning behind it when she explained it to me. all her advice she gives is based on the scriptures, it is hard to converse without her constantly bringing up the Bible. I was insulted recently when she brought up my dysfunctional family as a reason i had an argument with my partner. she basically said that because my dad left my mum and i was brought up by a single parent somehow my upbringing was wrong. this is coming from my mother in law though who let my partner be beat by her husband with a belt when my partner was only eight. they couldn’t take him to school for the marks on his body. they also took him to school in a cage once because he didn’t want to go.
i feel like i’m banging my head against a brick wall with her, i love my partner very much but i can’t stand his mother and father making out like i’m so crazy and in the wrong when they are plain weird in my eyes most of the time. my partner doesn’t often bother going over to his parents house and will chat when they come over but he doesn’t have a lot to do with them.
how do I cope in the future with my mother in law? the nicer i am to her the more interfering she becomes so now i try to keep away. because i am pregnant and have gained weight she makes off remarks to me about my size and i am dying to slap her in the face. she has a hold over my partner i don’t understand, he won’t upset his mum so i feel like i don’t want to cause trouble by slagging her off to him. help!

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2 Responses to “What To Do About My Mother In Law?”

  1. carla says:

    she sounds like a nasty piece of work. speak to her grown woman to grown woman tell her in your house you don’t want her preaching her nonsense and as for you being pregnant and she’s on about your size ask her did she think you were gonna get skinny? she obviously doesn’t like you but you don’t need to put up with her. if your partner isn’t gonna take a stand you should your not some helpless little girl. you don’t need your partners permission to say something to someone who is plain nasty to you.

  2. Margaret A says:

    its pretty much as carla has already said really. the only thing i have to add is don’t refer to her faith as nonsense, say you respect her beliefs but you do not share them. nonsense is just going to ignite her temper and won’t get you anywhere. in your condition please keep as calm as possible and don’t raise your voice. good luck.

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