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I Cant Stand Thinking This About My Boyfriend Please Help?

I just feel like pure ****. well i’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and he started to take this medicine called effexor around christmas time and i told him i didnt like it but oh well hes 17 and he used to always want sex and the past few months hes been rejecting me. i mean i throw myself at him and he says no not today well when that happened i just thought to myself i guess i wont even engauge sex at all then like a week goes by and nothing but like a *** slap and thats like it he wont makeout with anymore and i push myself on to him now i never really wanted back then but then on monday i was on his phone and saw HotTeenporn and i felt like wow my teen body isnt good enough and i feel like **** about i try to get over it and i just keep hearing in my head Hotteenporn i hate it so much then he said its not big deal you just need to get over it. i feel no sexual desire anymore i dont feel like i want to touch him or makeout nothing what do i do and hes done this before and it was alright and he promised last time not to do it anymore. also he said he only did it because i was rejecting him wtf i feel ugly now to him please help

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3 Responses to “I Cant Stand Thinking This About My Boyfriend Please Help?”

  1. Casey says:

    Maybe he is addicted to porn? I hate to assume but him rejecting you then getting on porn creates more of a presumption. Just let him know how you feel about it and keep in mind he has urges too.

  2. Tyler says:

    Side effect of that drug is sexual dysfunction. A lot of people never want to believe that its possible, but the neurotransmitters most psychological drugs mess with have a lot to do with sexual libido. You also must think that that porn he has on his phone may not have even aroused him or he used it before taking the pills again and you weren’t available, like very late at night or early in the morning. Just talk to him. It can be extremely embarrassing for guys not to be sexually driven. It is extremely depressing and frightening, and if he has depression or anxiety disorders it probably scares him to death to think about it, hence him trying to cover it up with you not trying. Don’t feel ugly, I guarantee you it’s not you. It’s just a lot of stuff with him, and the only way you’ll find out is talking. I usually try to be upbeat in my advice but I know this is hard. I am a guy that had once experienced those problems and it just plain hurts to know I couldn’t do much for my girl. Just have patience and try to get to the bottom of it with him. In the sake of the relationship, it’s worth the awkward talk. Best of luck and hope this helps!

  3. Debbie says:

    Just break up with him. As the saying goes, relationships are work, and if both people aren’t willing to work at it, it isn’t worth it. Unless of course, his lack of desire is seeded from a deeper problem. Most relationships start out with passion and spontaneity, and as they go on, that fades away after you start to get into focus.How about you just ask what’s wrong and stop making assumptions that you can’t satisfy his needs. You have to be open with each other and talk about things like this. Just listen to what you both have to say and make a decision.

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