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Do I Stay Or Do I Go?

I am 30, my boyfriend is 45. He has been through hell and back in his past relationships and has had a hard time dealing with it. He asked me to marry him in Oct. 2012, yet since then he gets mad when the subject even comes up. He makes me feel so bad about myself and is always on this “hurt you before you hurt me” thing. He didn’t do anything for my birthday, for valentines day, for our anniversary, for christmas, or for mothers day. He always uses his so called lack of money for his reasons but I know him money more then he does. Also, he allows his 20 year old daughter talk about me like a dog and be completely disrespectful to me. How can I fix this relationship?? Leaving is not an option, I have no where to go and no where to get there. No job, no money, no car, no friends or family. I need to make this work cause I can’t handle starting over again. I feel like I’ve lost who I am God I need help.

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3 Responses to “Do I Stay Or Do I Go?”

  1. Lawrence says:

    Run away from this guy as fast as you can. He has a temper, and he doesn’t love you as much as he should. The fact that he allows his daughter to treat you badly means that he doesn’t care about your feelings. He is bad news and he is not going to change.

  2. Kels says:

    I also feel so stuck. Just remind him everyday that you won’t ever hurt him, even if he hurts you because its real and you love him too much to. You should talk to her, tell her that you love her as if she were your own and just try to build a relationship with her. To the point her she comes to you for some girl advice, rather than her dad. You just have to be strong. And try to get a part time, Save some money, make an account that he doesn’t know about for your own protection. Take the bus for now, and buy a cheap car eventually and then just simply save up some more just to have some money for yourself. Hang in there sweetie.

  3. T J says:

    That can be really hurtful and especially the age gap in the relationship it seems like he takes advantage of u and the daughter thinks of u as a friend u need too put ur foot down if u don’t then it will keep happening if he asked u to marry him and he hasn’t shown improvement or any type of emotion towards holidays maybe leaving is the only option don’t allow him to put u down just because u have no job ect get out there and find it then u will find yourself and realize he doesn’t deserve u if he has a job and u don’t and u still manage to get things and he can’t is a big problem

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